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Q. My great-grandfather’s gravestone has a “Shin, Vav & Bet” after his name. What does that stand for?

A. “Shochet uBodek” – Ritual Slaughterer and Inspector/Investigator. This is the title for advanced Shochet certification.… Read the rest

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Q. My uncle has a tattoo, can he be buried in a Jewish cemetery?

A. I get this question all the time, and the answer is Yes. While Jewish Law forbids permanent tattoos, and that’s clear in the Torah – having one does not disqualify a Jew from being buried among his/her people. You … Read the rest

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Q. How can this be… I used a website to calculate my Torah portion, and it lists one for a BAR-mitzvah, and another for a BAT-Mitzvah! What difference would that make?

A. Torah portions for Bar and Bat Mitzvahs are determined by matching the Hebrew Date of your 12th or 13th Birthday to the portion which falls that week. The portion may vary on a given Hebrew date from year to … Read the rest

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Q. Why 66 days of impurity after the birth of a girl, but 33 days after the birth of a boy? 

A. The greater the gain, the greater the risk. With all great spiritual opportunity and blessing comes the possibility of susceptibility to spiritual danger and impurity. Birth is the greatest such opportunity. With girls the opportunity is even greater, for … Read the rest

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Q. Can I say Kaddish for my grandfather? My parents are both living.

A. Some Sefardic communities say that’s OK. Ashkenasic communities only OK it with your parents consent and express wishes, otherwise an elder family friend or charitable organization can be asked to say Kaddish. Many Jews feel uncomfortable saying Kaddish with … Read the rest

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Q. Do the Bride and Groom say a blessing before breaking the Glass?

A. They listen to 7 Blessings, recited by honored guests and family, answering Amen to each.… Read the rest

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Q. I’m invited to a Bar-Mitzvah, do I have to bring a present?

A. It’s nice to, and in some circles expected, but not a must. Most understand that students have limited resources. It doesn’t have to be a lot, just a token of your thoughtfulness for this new young man, embarking on … Read the rest

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Q. What’s a “Sheva Brachos”?

A. For a full week after marriage, the celebration continues. Each meal family and friends enjoy together with the bride and groom, is a Sheva Brachos meal, with 7 special blessings recited by guests, following the Grace after Meals (the … Read the rest

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Q. Why are Bar-Mitzvahs at 13, and Bat Mitzvahs at 12?

A. Don’t you know? Girls mature earlier.… Read the rest

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Q. My grandmother died this day last year. What can I do in her memory?

A. Kaddish is the prayer said on a “yartzeit” – anniversary of passing. But most people don’t say the Mourners’ Kaddish while both of our parents are living (there are personal and communal exceptions to this). There’s a prayer called … Read the rest

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