A. Kaddish is the prayer said on a “yartzeit” – anniversary of passing. But most people don’t say the Mourners’ Kaddish while both of our parents are living (there are personal and communal exceptions to this). There’s a prayer called “Kayl Moleh” said in many communities while holding the Torah, just before it’s put back in the Ark, for mourners at an anniversary time. We can personally perpetuate the memory of a loved one, by giving extra charity, studying some Torah, get-together with the family and remember her with stories and lessons. Our beloved ancestors live on, not only in our memory, but also in the lives we lead.