A. Some Sefardic communities say that’s OK. Ashkenasic communities only OK it with your parents consent and express wishes, otherwise an elder family friend or charitable organization can be asked to say Kaddish. Many Jews feel uncomfortable saying Kaddish with both parents (thank G-d!) still alive. I know that many Conservative and Reform congregations all say Kaddish along with the mourner, or at Holocaust ceremonies, but I am not aware of their official position on this matter. Please note: All this is in regard to the Mourners Kaddish, but not to the Kaddish recited during prayer by the Chazzan.